This article examines some aspects of guilt,
anxiety, resentment and how guilt is created and
resolved. Written by a psychologist.

Both speaker and listener play an important role in bringing about good communication. The speaker should say what he truly means and be clear and unambiguous in his statements. The listener should be fully attentive. Both should take precautionary steps to avoid misinterpretations. Examples of breakdowns in communication between partners are given to illustrate the points made in this article. Since neither gender wins an Emmy for communication, to be fair to both genders, the author will use "he" and "she" at different times with the understanding that all of his points are relevant to both genders.

Getting your message across to another person is the essence of communication. In a couple relationship, each person must play two roles: he must be eager to express himself honestly, and he must be warmly receptive to the communications of his partner. Dr. Gross presents thirteen potential communication problems which he elaborates with examples drawn from his practice in marriage and couple counseling.

Please note: Neither men nor women can claim an Emmy for communication. In order to be gender fair, the author will alternate between "he" and "she" with the understanding that all of his points are relevant to both sexes.

"All the world is on the tip of the tongue" Talmud, Brachot

This article addresses the issues of couples who say, "We have a communication problem," "We're always fighting." It will be shown that in a reasonably short time, couples can master respectful arguing which will result in successful complaint and problem-solving skills which are a necessary ingredient for mutual understanding and a harmonious relationship.

Note: For the sake of grammatical simplicity, I generally use "he" and "his" with the understanding that all points made in the article are relevant to both genders.