http://www.therapist-psychologist.com/psychology_article en-us N/A admin@therapist-psychologist.com Fri, 04 Jul 2008 21:41:50 PDT 20 false false false clean http://www.therapist-psychologist.com/psychology_article/articles/53/1/Assertiveness-Is-More-Than-Learning-Skills/Page1.html   If we think such antagonistic behavior defines assertiveness, it is no wonder that so many of us prefer to remain silent. Rather than being perceived as selfish, overbearing or unreasonable, we keep our opinions to ourselves. We are reluctant to tell people when we have a schedule conflict. We hesitate to voice our preference for a movie we want to see or a restaurant we want to visit.  We fail to tell people when they delight us and we fail to tell them when they have overlooked or offended us. Our relationships, therefore, stay distant or lukewarm and we feel not only overlooked and offended, but probably resentful or angry.  Although we feel frustrated and misunderstood, we blame ourselves for not being assertive and internally berate ourselves for not standing up for our values or wants.  We want to be more assertive, but we fear being selfish bullies.]]> no@spam.com (Mary DuParri) http://www.therapist-psychologist.com/psychology_article/articles/53/1/Assertiveness-Is-More-Than-Learning-Skills/Page1.html http://www.therapist-psychologist.com/psychology_article/articles/52/1/How-Can-I-Get-You-To-Trust-Me-Again/Page1.html   Many couples and families have experienced situations in their lives that lead to the loss of trust in someone.  It can be a fairly minor incident, like a teen being late for a few too many curfews, or it can be major, like an infidelity in a relationship.  The person who lied feels they can never do enough to be trusted again.  The one who was lied to feels they would be foolish to become too accepting, too soon. Here are some guidelines that can help in rebuilding trust:]]> no@spam.com (Mary DuParri) http://www.therapist-psychologist.com/psychology_article/articles/52/1/How-Can-I-Get-You-To-Trust-Me-Again/Page1.html http://www.therapist-psychologist.com/psychology_article/articles/37/1/Parts-of-Self-Are-Really-Trying-to-Help/Page1.html no@spam.com (Mary DuParri) http://www.therapist-psychologist.com/psychology_article/articles/37/1/Parts-of-Self-Are-Really-Trying-to-Help/Page1.html http://www.therapist-psychologist.com/psychology_article/articles/36/1/On-Being-Mr-Miyagi/Page1.html no@spam.com (Mary DuParri) http://www.therapist-psychologist.com/psychology_article/articles/36/1/On-Being-Mr-Miyagi/Page1.html