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Taking Charge of Anger: How to Resolve Conflict, Sustain Relationships, and Express Yourself without Losing Control By W. Robert Nay ( The Guilford Press )
Release Date: 2003-10-20
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Angry people often get into trouble--with spouses and kids, bosses and colleagues, friends and strangers--and "putting a lid on it" is easier said than done. Yet this powerful, often destructive emotion CAN be tamed with the effective six-step program presented in this book. Anger expert Dr. Robert Nay, who has conducted popular trainings and workshops nationwide on his proven approach, combines innovative self-discovery tools and targeted exercises for understanding and managing the five unproductive faces of anger, from passive-aggression to all-out rage. Quizzes, worksheets, and practice tips help readers assess when and why their anger becomes a problem, switch gears before it escalates out of control, and channel anger in more productive ways. Beyond just learning textbook strategies, readers gain skills to make anger control second-nature in stressful, hot-button situations.
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 Highly recommend.
I think this was a great book. It was a quick read with real life application. The author has spent a great deal of time to make this book easy to read for all levels.
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A Clear Approach to a Complex Problem
Before writing my review, I read the others. Some wrote that this book was the same old, same old, nothing new. The contents may not be altogether new,however, the way Dr. Nay presents the material is helpful.
Over the past five years, I went to numerous counselors asking for help with my angry outbursts and my continued disgust for some peoples behavior. These counselors only offered me handouts.
One counselor provoked me to see how expressed my anger. I caught on to what she was doing. I asked her if she was actually trying to Piss me Off. She said yes. I asked her why. "I wanted to see how you would react." Regardless of her credentials, I immediately stood up and left.
In this book, Dr. Nay states that anger has five basic faces: Passive-aggressive, Sarcasm, Cold-Anger, Hostility, and Aggression. After taking his brief questionnaire in this book, I found that I fit into all five categories at one time or another.
Growing up in The Bronx, New York, I learned to wear many masks in order to survive. Dr. Nay does not offer excuses to continue in my "wild and crazy" behavior. He offers me solution.
If someone truly wants answers to the anger problem, try this book. It is no magic pill. In fact, I leave my copy on my kitchen table and read a few pages a day. I use a yellow highlighter and numerous pens.
After completing my college degree in 2002 at age forty-seven, I had a lot of knowledge, but I did not have a solution for my emotional problems, especially my anger.
In defense of my education, I am using the tools of studying in my approach to this book. Without controlling or taking charge of my anger, my degree will do me little good if I cannot get along with people.
Conflict is everywhere. This book helps with this human problem of communication. Dr. Nay suggests to read the book all the way through; then go back and read it again and this second time do the exercises.
Ever since the invention Carnation's Instant Breakfast in the 60's, it seems many of us expect quick and easy solutions to our problems. In fact, a change in ones personality can take a lot of time, patience, a lot of time away from other activities and a lot of hard work.
My observation has been that although we can easily find ideas and information on the Internet, I do not believe that we can expect lasting change without reading, studying, contemplation, journaling or writing, and practicing new habits of thinking and acting. Improving ourselves is serious business; in fact, anything worthwhile requires a commitment.
If you do not feel like you want to buy this book at first, go borrow one from the library. But, please do not read your borrowed copy with a pen in hand. Before you get through the first two chapters, you will be want to purchase your own copy.
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Very useful
I read all the reviews for this book and carefully thought about before purchasing and I must say that this book is a must for anyone who has anger issues. Obviously everyones opinion is different as well as mine is from yours but after finding myself bullying my family for "no" reason I was recommended this book by a friend. After reading it my family has since tried to "push" my buttons and so far has not succeeded in getting me to succomb to the pressure. I would recommend this book and also feel that the other reviews that have been submitted did an injustice for this book but thats where freedom of speech comes in I guess. Good read, Great book, Wonderful info to apply to your everyday life.
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 stupid book ( genx_express )
This book made me totally angry because it's written by a stupid doctor who obviously does not understand what it's like to be human. There is no way to tell someone how to control anger. Breathing and saying to yourself "I better not get mad now" ain't gonna help a darn bit to someone who is totally upset since they were 4. I say, lower your caffeine intake and eat more apples. That helped me a LOT.
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Provides a way to identify behavior issues AND gives methods to change them.
I have been greatly helped by this book. I've read others and had lackluster results mainly because they focus on identifying and classifying issues but fall short when it comes to weponizing the reader with techniques that achieve results.
This text (like some others) begins by drawing the reader in with situational examples mapped to a breakdown of the underpinning anger types. There are self assessments to help guide the reader into better insights. This is further (and nicely) developed in Chapter 4 to give powerful techniques that allowed me address my own particular issues. By the time I completed Chapters 6 and 7 I was actively engaging effective methods that had real positives impacts on my life. The methods used are sensible, easy to apply and effective.
I am a slow reader by comparison to most; however, I believe that I was served well by this. I would suggest reading this book at a pace that allows time to reflect and apply the techniques. It seems logical to me that the process of behavioral change is much slower than the process of understanding my issues, so taking the material in chunks allowed me time to manage these methods in an effective way.
"Taking Charge of Anger" is allowing me to reframe the world in away that I can effectively cope; likewise, I am better equipped to be a more comfortable person to be around.
Good luck on your particular journey.
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