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When Love Is Not Enough: A Guide to Parenting Children with RAD By Nancy L. Thomas ( Families by Design )
Release Date: 2005-01-31
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Newly updated and expanded, this book is power packed with parenting techniques for guiding challenging children back on track! Part I includes understanding Reactive Attachment Disorder, it's causes and symptoms. Part II has the solutions! Praised by parents throughout the world as saving their sanity and their families. Used by many agencies and professionals to train parents to help emotionally disturbed youth. If you want to make a difference in the life of a hurting child this clear, focused plan will do it.
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 awesome book
An absolute MUST READ for anyone parenting a RAD child or adopting older children. I wish I had read this book first!!!!
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 Sounds enticing...but I fear quackery
The ideas suggested in this book appear logical and make some intuitive sense to me, and I got excited while reading it. However, the author admits from page one that she is not a trained psychologist; nor is she a trained researcher. She does have expertise due to her years of parenting RAD children in her home, and apparently 90 percent of them have killed before. She claims a success rate with these children, though she doesn't say how highj. My problem is that without empirical data (she offers none) we cannot say for certain that her success (we don't know how she is measuring success, or even if success is truly achieved) is due to these methods she presents, or whether it is due to some other factor--perhaps she herself is merely a miracle worker, for some X reason.
I WANT to believe in the methods, because they sound good. They certainly don't sound harmful as she presents them. They jivewith my own beliefs and philosophies about parenting, though they are a bit harsh. However, because the author did not attempt to back up her statements with any theory or research, I am left with the task of backing them up for her...in other words, I have to keep reading.
It doesn't help the author's case that this book was recommended to me by a highly disturbed client of mine (I am a child protective services worker) to justify her emotionally abusive parenting methods, and that the book was recommended to HER by the least respected, most unethical, quack of a psychologist in our town. In the book's defense, my client wasn't really doing the suggestions properly.
This doesn't help either:
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Great resource ( poohsplace )
We was given this book shortly after we adopted our son. It has great information and is written so anyone can understand it, not all clinical jargon. I have reread the book several times at different stages of our sons development. This book is a great resource and I highly recommend it to anyone living with a RAD child.
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Good info -- Taken too Far ( happymomanna )
When Love Is Not Enough: A Guide to Parenting Children with RAD does offer some very great information and insight about parenting children with Reactive Attachment Disorder however as the Reviewer below me points out some of the advice seems a bit extreme to me.
I also believe that some approaches are not healthy for children with other significant issues and found that parenting a child with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD) specifically Alcohol Related Neurodevelopmental Disorder (ARND) is completely different and requires a far different approach then those offered by the leading experts (?) in Reactive Attachment Disorder.
Many of the tips and advice for parenting a RAD child do not take into account Short term Memory or Processing difficulties many children adopted from Foster Care may also have due to brain damage.
The approaches used for RAD children only caused Secondary Behavior Symptoms for my child who was diagnosed RAD and ARND. Once we were aware that our daughter has brain damage the tips and approaches offered by this outline no longer seemed needed. Once we recognized our childs disability and allowed ourselves to look for different approaches the majority of RAD symptoms went away and our whole family has changed as a result.
I believe that it is important to understand that attachment takes time and that it is not always the only thing parents need to be worried about. When we focus on the right things attachment will build more naturally.
Anna Glendenning
Adoptive Parents Network
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A FosterAdoption Necessity ( klsmomseven )
How I wish I had read this book to use 9 years ago with our two beautiful special needs adopted children. Very practical, useful, powerful tools to build attachment, navigate through the muddy waters of behavior crises, counselling, schools, and extended family. Useful for kids under 12, a bit light on legal advice that can become extremely critical as adolescent storms hit.
Encouraging, humorous,touching. It should be required at adoption prep classes for any child.
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