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Lost in the Mirror, 2nd Edition: An Inside Look at Borderline Personality Disorder By Richard Moskovitz ( Taylor Trade Publishing )
Release Date: 2001-03-25
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Explores the frightening world of BPD patients and helps readers understand their pain.
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 Incredible and sensitive INSIDE perspective on BPD ( patca63 )
I have a graduate education in psychology and biochemistry. I also have a deep interest in comparitive religion and "meaning making." In other words, I follow a multi-dimensional approach to understanding any phenomenon and I think this is necessary to capture the full depth of reality. This sets the context for my review.
I was very impressed by Lost in the Mirror and I couldn't put it down. It is a well-organized, thorough, balanced and sensitive approach to BPD as it is experienced from the inside. I think this inside perspective is particularly valuable to BPD sufferers and those that are close to them. It can help engender understanding, compassion and support as it helps loved ones make sense of the contradictory behavior, stormy emotions and other symptoms that accompany this disorder.
In some of the reviews below, Dr. Moskovitz is criticized for being overly empathetic for the BPD victim rather than the people on the receiving end of rage or acting out. I have been on the receiving end myself and I must say that I don't agree with this characterization. However, I have personally struggled with my own anger, confusion and feelings of disorientation.
The way I have made sense out of the above situation in my best moments is by trying to understand the inside perspective as it is presented in this book. I recognize at a deep level that both the BPD person is hurting and that others in their life are also hurting. I didn't get from reading Dr. Moskovitz that the person with this disorder is not responsible or completely off the hook, nor did I get a sense that he is bashing them for their behavior. It seemed like a balanced perspective to me.
There are two books that I think are "must haves" on BPD. One of them is this volume and the other is Sometimes I Act Crazy: Living with Borderline Personality Disorder. There are also many other great books on this topic, but these two together seem to give the most concise, thorough and deep treatment.
I particularly liked the way this book developed the topic and used just enough case history type content to bring the concepts alive. I also appreciated the powerful metaphors and great examples. Without sacrificing content, the author made a lot of difficult to understand material accessible to anyone. This is no easy feat with a disorder like BPD.
While I do admire this book very much, I also think it is important to have another perspective. I have found that with a topic like BPD, there are likely to be blindspots in any account. Therefore, I feel it's crucial to look at this terrain from as many perspectives as possible. Even with my psychological background, I must admit it was and is very difficult to get my arms fully around this complex disorder that causes so much suffering.
I wrote this review late at night partly because I feel this could be such a helpful book to so many people. I wanted to share with everyone who is seeking answers that this a unique and important contribution on this topic. I hope you find it as helpful as I did.
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Lost ,Then Found
The beautiful writing style makes Lost in the Mirror rewarding reading. Learning of the probability of the woman I love being borderline BPD, I undertook learning as much as I could about the disorder.
LITM is the fifth book I've read in a series of excellent writings on the subject. It distinguishes itself through the genius of Dr. Moskovitz's presentation. I recommend it very highly. It is so well done I decided my dear lady friend would find it interesting with little chance of causing a disruption in our relationship.
It is working! She hasn't finished the book yet, but it surely has helped us discuss our "difficulties". As I expected, she believes I am the subject the doctor is referring to, but at least it has her seeing some "things" that have her realizing some of the symtoms describe her "inner" feelings.
I learned of her condition when I started therapy...and she will begin hers next week, with much thanks to this easy-to-understand, informative little book.
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 Not recommended for those with BPD-- ( impjanie )
I bought several books on BPD after realizing that someone
close to me has symptoms that match those associated with BPD.
I would not give this book to a person who is Paranoid
and/or is a dangerous trouble maker; traits that the BPD
person shows to some degree.
These types are out to destroy anyone whom they feel has
done anything to them---whether trivial or imagined.
This book does not sympathize with the BPD's victims but
finds excuses as to why the BPD person has been programed
to act in a destructive way--because of abuse as a
child, etc.
I know of 4 people in this certain family who show signs of
this illness and I can testify to the fact that none of them
were abused, either sexually, physically, mentally or
emotionally.
All 4 have caused family breakups, spread vicious lies, blamed
others for the negative feelings that they have of themselves.
I TRULY BELIEVE THAT THESE PEOPLE ARE DANGEROUS.
They can be secretive, manipulative and devious.
I honestly do not believe that reading will help these people
other than TRYING to make them see that they need help.
And I have seen that therapy does little or nothing to help them.
The only positive results, that I have seen, are those who are
put on medication to change their moods, etc.
Something in the brain is not working.
To blame others for their problem only gives them the right to
continue their bad behavior.
6-22-07
For those who have taken offense to my review......
I am a most compassionate person who has much sympathy
for anyone who is hurting or has problems, whether physical,
mental or spiritual. You have read something into my review
that is not there.
My anger is not towards the two victims...i.e. ,the people
with the disorder and the people who have to live with them.
My anger is towards "THE(so called) EXPERTS" who place blame.
Blame on parents, events that never happened, or people who
had nothing to do with causing this disorder. Every book
I have read at least suggests that there is blame to be
placed.
I believe that this disorder is caused by something not
working right in a person's body. Whether it be hormones,
genetics, whatever, Because I have seen it in families,
I think that it is hereditary.
It does NO ONE ANY GOOD TO SUGGEST OR ADVISE EITHER VICTIM(S)
THAT SOMEONE ELSE CAUSED THEIR PROBLEM.
IT ONLY MAKES THEM WORSE.
Finding the cause or easing the symptoms with medications
are the only way , I believe, that this problem can be helped.
I have experienced, first hand, how Paranoia and BPD can cause a
multitude of problems and have come to the conclusion that
these illnesses are the cause of much of the heartache, break-ups,
family division, etc.
Many times over something trivial or non-existent.
I hope and pray that the cause of these life-shattering
illnesses is found ....SOON !
BELIEVE ME, I HAVE MUCH EXPERIENCE AND KNOW WHAT I AM TALKING
ABOUT. IT HASN'T BEEN AN EASY LIFE FOR ME
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Lost in the Mirror ( cegonz67 )
This book takes a psychological and behavioral approach to understanding borderline personality disorder. Even if you have read "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me", you'll need to read this book to understand what the best treatment modalities available today. Of course, it was out of date the minute it was put on paper, as all books are, but it is the best that I have found to understand the causes and underlying compulsions that frustrate those who suffer from BPD.
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Very Informative ( dd0416ak )
This book was very easy to read unlike other books that are so confusing. I found this book very helpful in understanding BPD. I think it's an excellent read if you are looking to understand BPD.
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