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Mars and Venus Together Forever: Relationship Skills for Lasting Love By John Gray ( Harper Paperbacks )
Release Date: 1996-02-14
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Product Description
The national bestseller that sold more than 450,000 copies and is the perfect companion to the author's nearly 3-million-copy, #1 New York Times bestseller Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus.
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 Great Book for Bringing Back the Spark!
Learning to understand long term relationships is a tough one for many people. It seems like such a mystical thing and many relationships suffer from the lack of awareness.
John Gray clarifies and shows a couple how to apply simple skills to the relationship, no matter where you feel you are at.
Highly suggested!
Merna Throne
Pocket of Pearls: A 30-day pocket workbook to start hearing a softer voice inside of you!
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 Dissapointing.... ( kmcdermott1182 )
I couldn't wait for this book to arrive at my local library for me to pick up. I never bought books but almost bought this one several times because the title really caught my interest. However, now that I have the book & I am glad I never impulsively purchased it I am left very dissapointed. It left me feeling depressed at times about marriage & family. I am married now but no kids yet. This book was making me think that married life sucks & I don't want children because I will be overwhelmed with responsibility. Joh Gray really harps way to much on the negatives on relationships, marriage, & family. If you focus only on the things that are wrong ofcourse your relationship is going to have problems. I prefer books that focus on the things in marriage that bring us joy & learning ways to increase the joy in our relationships. This book really is negative & stereotypical in every way. I do not recommend it. I found it in no way to be truthful, motivating, helpful, or inspiring. So to me there was no point to this book. It was a waiste of time & money!
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Secrets for Lasting Passion ( castlebooknook )
"By understanding and honoring that men thrive on appreciation and women on communication, we gain the knowledge and the power to create mutually fulfilling relationships. ~ pg. 37
In most of John Gray's books he focuses his attention on women with a dominant feminine energy and males with a dominant masculine energy. In this book he also dedicates a chapter to women with a dominant masculine side and men with a dominant feminine side. In both cases he encourages men and women to adapt to the Mars and Venus stereotype to solve most problems. Men are encouraged to enhance their warrior skills (listening) while women are encouraged to enhance their nurturing skills.
John Gray does a good job in explaining why old relationship skills are not working in modern marriages. He believes relationship issues are inevitable. This means there is a need to develop new communications skills. In the first half of the book he mostly discusses how men need to learn to listen to women more and how women need to let men have their "cave/alone" time on a regular basis. For more information on this subject along with scientific proof read: Why Mars and Venus Collide: Improving Relationships by Understanding How Men and Women Cope Differently with Stress.
Since the stress of modern society (women having to take on all the responsibilities of home life along with working) is the real source of relationship problems, he explains how women can get what they need at home.
I liked the section on sexual polarity because it explains why some people don't fit into the typical stereotypes. There are also some interesting ideas on how to get a woman to talk if she is cold and evasive. It is also good to know that my husband is nurturing my feminine side by opening doors for me.
In this book in particular, John Gray shows us a little of his dark side or shadow self. He encourages men not to let this side dominate a conversation and explains more effective techniques for a more successful interaction. In fact he suggests that men should sleep on some issues before discussing them with their partner. So much for the "don't go to sleep angry" rule. To end the book, there is a section on "The Seven Secrets of Lasting Passion." In this chapter there is also a list of twenty things men can do to ignite passion in their partner.
After reading numerous John Gray books in the past few weeks I can say that this book in particular is more complex than the other books I had the pleasure to read. This may be the book that you will want to read twice because there is so much to absorb and learn.
~The Rebecca Review
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Very insightful ( lmargaret )
In response to other reviewers, yes, this book does rely heavily on stereotypes of male and female behavior. If you find you don't fit the stereotypes (and of course not everyone does!), then you'll need to look for another book. But for many (most?) of us, the insights and advice in this book will be very helpful. As I read, I was constantly amazed by how much I could see myself and my husband in John Gray's descriptions. Last night I had my first opportunity to try out his techniques on how to prepare a man to listen...and it worked beautifully! A situation that would certainly have escalated into a hurtful argument was diffused into a calm, brief conversation that left both of us feeling warm and loving toward each other.
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Grrr! ( veronica-england )
Mars and Venus Together Forever is one of the most ridiculous, stupid books that I have ever had the gross misfortune to read. I probably should have expected what I got, considering that Mars and Venus on a Date left me cold, but I read this one anyway because the original Mars and Venus book had SOME interesting insights and I'm a sucker for a cheap book.
Anyone who buys into the stereotypes promoted by John Gray must be barmy. He exaggerates, overemphasises and blusters his way through the 200+ pages - probably with the best motives in his mind - but in the end the stuff he writes is uninspiring and insipid. According to him men and women are still ruled by `ancient' traditions which dictate that women are all do-gooder types who only desire to stay at home, chatting with other women and looking at flowers whilst men are all aggressive cavemen, grunting their way through their lives with zero finesse, a beer in one hand and the TV remote in the other.
I don't see how anyone, man or woman, could read this book without being annoyed. For women, the book is terribly unempowering. If you don't fit in with any of Gray's ideas about what a woman should be then you are labelled as masculine. I don't want to read a book which tells me that when I am at work I am moving towards my masculine side because being goal-oriented, competitive and efficient are male traits. It's all phooey! For men, the book is also offensive. John Gray says that men shouldn't express their feelings because it will cause a woman to lose her attraction for him. No, I don't believe that men and women are the same in all respects - there are gender differences - but in Mars and Venus these are distorted.
Overall this book is not worth your time. Underneath the waffle there may be some good points, but all of these are outweighed by the stereotypes.
JoAnne
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